I was watching a Pakistani TV serial "Zindagi Gulzar hai" which is a romantic and social drama revolving around 2 people (Kashaf Murtaza the lead actress and Zaroon Junaid the lead actor), how different their views about life is, their family & financial background, the attitude they carry etc... A quite subtle series focusing on various aspects of their society.
In one of the scene, where Kashaf gets admission into one of the premium MBA institutes; and she shares her dream with her mom of becoming successful and taking care of the family. Her mom replies "Main kya chahti hoon tum janti ho. Main chahti hoon ki tum jaldi jaldi apni taleem khatam karo aur kisi achi jagah pe main tumhara rrishta tayy kar doon. Zindagi mein agar acha sathi mil jaye toh zindagi ka raasta phoolon se bhara rasta bann jata hai". To which Kashaf replies " Aur agar bura sathi ho toh fir, wohi rasta Kanton se bhar jata hai. Behter nahi ke na phool na kaante mangey. Bus kacche raste pe chalna seekh lein?"
And isn't it so true. I know uncertainty is the beauty of life. One can never be sure of what his or her life would like no matter how much one tries to be in control of their life. But having gone through the phase of marriage trauma myself; I always keep wondering why is it so important to add another huge life changing uncertainty to our lives. Don't we already have enough to care about. It's a different thing, where you love someone and want to be with that person; it's your choice. Also, if you have always fantasized about being married ; about having someone to lean on; basically if you are a person with an inclination towards marriage; then again it makes sense; it's your choice.
But what I don't understand is the situation like Kashaf (and this I am not talking just on behalf of women but also men); that if you are one of those kinds who are not yet ready for marriage; not yet prepared for the being with someone you don't know; and your loved ones come to you with an explanation like Kashaf's Ammi - That life will be so beautiful when you have someone to share it with etc... I can completely comprehend with Kashaf's response to it. How can one be sure it will be a path filled with roses? What if one doesn't get a right life partner and things don't go well between them; same path will be filled with thorns? Then wouldn't it be better for us to walk on a plain path; no roses no thorns; a plain muddy path.
As for this TV series, I have liked it so far. Simple , Straight forward one without any expensive big budget set or wardrobe; good story, good actors and well directed.
-Sarita
Dated: 19th Feb 2015
In one of the scene, where Kashaf gets admission into one of the premium MBA institutes; and she shares her dream with her mom of becoming successful and taking care of the family. Her mom replies "Main kya chahti hoon tum janti ho. Main chahti hoon ki tum jaldi jaldi apni taleem khatam karo aur kisi achi jagah pe main tumhara rrishta tayy kar doon. Zindagi mein agar acha sathi mil jaye toh zindagi ka raasta phoolon se bhara rasta bann jata hai". To which Kashaf replies " Aur agar bura sathi ho toh fir, wohi rasta Kanton se bhar jata hai. Behter nahi ke na phool na kaante mangey. Bus kacche raste pe chalna seekh lein?"
And isn't it so true. I know uncertainty is the beauty of life. One can never be sure of what his or her life would like no matter how much one tries to be in control of their life. But having gone through the phase of marriage trauma myself; I always keep wondering why is it so important to add another huge life changing uncertainty to our lives. Don't we already have enough to care about. It's a different thing, where you love someone and want to be with that person; it's your choice. Also, if you have always fantasized about being married ; about having someone to lean on; basically if you are a person with an inclination towards marriage; then again it makes sense; it's your choice.
But what I don't understand is the situation like Kashaf (and this I am not talking just on behalf of women but also men); that if you are one of those kinds who are not yet ready for marriage; not yet prepared for the being with someone you don't know; and your loved ones come to you with an explanation like Kashaf's Ammi - That life will be so beautiful when you have someone to share it with etc... I can completely comprehend with Kashaf's response to it. How can one be sure it will be a path filled with roses? What if one doesn't get a right life partner and things don't go well between them; same path will be filled with thorns? Then wouldn't it be better for us to walk on a plain path; no roses no thorns; a plain muddy path.
As for this TV series, I have liked it so far. Simple , Straight forward one without any expensive big budget set or wardrobe; good story, good actors and well directed.
-Sarita
Dated: 19th Feb 2015
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