You don’t know me

You don’t know me.

And what you know of me is not even half of who I am. 

It’s not that I am too private. I say what I feel, and although I am on open book, I am just not too easily readable.

But tell me, why would you want to know me? Or rather know EVERYTHING about me?

We as humans obsess about knowing everything about each other, especially about the ones we love. We want to believe that we KNOW what they think, what they like, who they are etc.. I think it comes to us naturally. 

But, we don’t. No matter how close we are, there’s a part of us that’s always too private. That cannot be shared. Sometimes we ourselves don’t know who we are.

I believe, you should just be happy with the part they share with you, and who they are when they are around you. And remember, who they are when they are with you depends on who you are around them.

There’s always a disclaimer- they are a different person when they are with someone else. And they are a different person when they are alone.

Accept it. Because that’s who you are too.

We can get a general idea about a person and their personality; but to resolve to know the person inside out, is a mission that pretty much kills the fun in any relationship. Enjoy what you have. You don’t need to know everything about them. You need to know just enough to love them. 

Of course, we are attentive, we care for one another, so we invest in knowing one another; it’s just you should know how far you want to push the boundaries; but remember boundaries will exist. You cannot wipe it out. And you don’t need to. Learn to respect that boundary.

You remember the Venn diagram from your school days? 

The Union of two sets? That’s who we are to one another. There’s an intersection of two sets, which is what we know of one another. But then in each set there is a complement of a set, which is everything outside the realm of that intrersection; and as a person, there’s a huge section of unknown that lies beyond us. 

Should it scare you? That you don’t fully know your loved one? Well, if you ask me, No. We don’t own one another. We are just part of each other’s lives. 

So yeah, you and I, we know each other just enough to enjoy each other’s company. And that’s all that should matter. 

You don’t know me and I don’t know you either. And that’s alright.